11 years ago I met a boy, and we were somewhat infatuated with each other, mainly because we never really got to be together, due to life and circumstances(he would disappear for weeks.)
7 years ago, We reconnected and although I was engaged to my now husband at the time, me and this boy (we'll call him PW) had an affair. After we slept together a few times, I felt guilty, and decided to be honest to all parties involved and stopped my affair with PW (mostly because I was young, and because I wanted to get out of my house, and because PW treated me like crap towards the end.) We went our separate ways, and we both married our respective significant others. I never heard from PW again, until...
This year, I sank into a deep depression around January (post-Xmas blues, I guess.) I seriously thought of leaving my husband, since I wasn't feeling happy or loved by him. But then close to my birthday, I decided to make 2011 a year of positive changes and goals for myself. Everything was going well, and then PW contacted me on FB. He told me he was in the middle of a divorce. A whole wave of emotions washed over me, and someone I thought I was over, has been brought back to me by the universe.
We got to talking, and this past week he asked me for a favor. trying to be friendly, I met up with him and did the favor (non-sexual.) Seeing him in person made me very nervous and shakey. I even placed PW's hand over my heart to show him how he still made me feel after all these years.
Today it occured to me that this is all happening after 7 years. The number 7 has always held a huge significance to me, but now more than ever. But I'm not sure if this is the universe testing my faithfulness to my husband again, or giving me a second chance with PW. I'm so confused. I can't stop thinking of him, and get tingly in my hands from the thought of him. And then I read "The number 7 indicates the senses of change after an accomplished cycle and of a positive renewal."
I wish the universe would give me a sign of whether or not PW and I should be together or not. Any advice would be appreciated.
Two simple questions should give you the answer. Do you love your husband? What makes you think it would be any different with PW this time around?
RE: 7 years Later
by Alexandra - 6/21/11 6:42 AM
I do love my Husband, but I honestly question our marriage quite often. We don't see eye to eye on many things, and our love life is lacking.
Deep down I kind of know things with PW won't be different, but at the same time, there is a glimmer of hope in me that things will be different this time around. Some of the things he told me (which are very intimate) make me think this. It also occurred to me this morning that not only is this 7 years later, but when I met with him a few nights ago, it was our 7th meeting. That's twice the number 7 has come up. I'm waiting for a third 7.
RE: 7 years Later
by Anonymous - 6/21/11 8:19 PM
Well hopefully you communicate your concerns with your husband. Marriage is difficult but with God anything is possible, otherwise we wouldn't even try. PW had his chance and frankly he is a coward and a cheat for approaching you again even though you're a married woman. You're playing with fire by even communicating with him, let alone doing any favors. How would your husband feel about all this?
RE: 7 years Later
by Alexandra - 6/22/11 6:00 PM
Anon, after a chat with a stranger, I got the answer I needed. Stranger asked me, "what do you want? A rock (husband,) that will always be there for you? or a sand castle that although is pretty, you need to keep rebuilding over and over?" Honestly, that was what I needed to hear. I have been honest with my husband about everything except for the favor part-he says he trusts me. I let my husband know last night that he is my rock, and I thank my lucky stars for him. I'm still struggling with all of this right now, but I know it's the right choice. I will just ask PW to repay me asap, and wish him a happy life. If we're meant to be, it will happen eventually, I suppose.
RE: 7 years Later
by Anonymous - 9/26/11 8:51 PM
lets see, if he treated u like crap onece, he will probably treat u like crap again so personally i would not hook up with "PW", but u should ask urself if u truly love ur husband and if u do try to make it work
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